Wedding bells for Clooney, but what what about the rest of us?
So, apparently women across the globe have now become one seething, weeping mass of despair following the wedding of George Clooney. With the exception of a Royal wedding, I really don’t think I can recall when nuptials have caused such an international media sensation.
Even the recent Angelina wedding didn’t really attract as much as publicity as the Clooney wedding did, and it left me thinking…what about us normal, ordinary non celeb types who are actively looking for love.
Will our online dating endeavours ever lead to a romance or relationship on such a large scale? Do we have wedding envy? Are celeb weddings just feeding the fact that we are single or do we find them aspirational like a romantic, fantasy fairy tale that we feel we could have a little tiny bit of? Is marriage really the be all and end all?
Most people I have interviewed and spoken to over the years about their online dating experiences, rarely admit to even thinking about wedding plans. They are content to meet someone new and see how things go, particularly if they have been married before and have experienced the stress and sadness that an acrimonious divorce can bring. Others, however, always have the idea of a wedding in the back of their mind but rarely vocalise it for fear of frightening people off, nobody wants to see the back of a new date as they run for the hills after all!
During my early days of internet dating, in fact it was my very first online dating experience, I encountered a very strange situation. Keen to keep things local, we met for our date in Oxfordshire, but while I was happy to have a drink and a chat and see how things went, my date, Kevin, decided to bring along all manner of supporting documentation with him from his palatial home in the Isle of Man.
Quite apart from his private pilot’s licence (and training manual-worryingly) he bought me photos of his car, his house and had even gone as far as to think creatively about the type of wedding we might have. As the very scary date progressed it transpired that his mother was keen to get him married off. If his paperwork was to be believed, this was a very wealthy man from a very wealthy family who just could not meet the right person and was literally happy to sell himself to someone who mummy would, hopefully, approve of.
Needless to say I positively sprinted back to my car and was seriously put off internet dating for quite some time.
This is an entirely true story, and at the time I was really disturbed by it, but looking back I now feel sad that a man felt the need to demonstrate his wealth and assets as a way of persuading someone he was a good option.
I often think about lots of my internet dates and wonder what happened to them, and I genuinely hope that Kevin didn’t actually get married because he was trying to do it for all the wrong reasons. I honestly never imagined I would ever marry again, and I was content not be married but things change, stuff happens and that old devil called love pops up and before you know it… boom! You are married!
However, marriage isn’t for everyone whether it is first or second time around so when you are searching online for love and romance, remember to be honest with yourself as well as your potential dates, and if you do want to re marry, do it for all the right reasons, not because George Clooney has or your mum thinks it’s a good idea!